Dog Behavior Training – Choosing a Good Family Dog
There comes a time in most home families when the children get a bit older and their dog or teddy is no longer the best thing in the world to play with, every new friend or existing friend your children make seems to have a cute little dog, and its only a matter of time before your children are going to start pestering you for one. So what should you look for is your serious about getting a family dog?
For starters your dog will need to be able to take everything your children can throw at it, children often don’t have any idea of how to handle a new pet dog so don’t expect them to play gently all the time, unknowing children have a tendency to be a little rough wile playing with dogs so a dog breed that can take some rough playing is essential.
Different dogs have different personalities just like humans do so be aware of this when purchasing a new dog, just because a dog breed is normally playful, energetic, and nice , this does not mean the one you get will be the same. Being prepared to put in work and time with your dog is also essential with a family dog because dog’s often take the things your children tell it to do as acceptable when this may not be the case, so dog behavior training will be needed at some point.
After considering the previous paragraphs I’m sure you will be pretty certain on whether you still want a dog for your home or not, if you do then here are some suggestions on different breeds that you may want to consider.
Golden Retriever. The golden retriever is a good popular choice for families because of their active and loyal personality and a good all round dog.
Boxer. Although the boxer may look big and intimidating to some, the boxer is a very good family dog in that they love being around people, they take care of the family members, and are always willing to play.
Labrador Retreiver. An extremely popular pet in many households across the world, the Labrador is a very friendly loving dog that loves to play and be very active for your kids to play with.
Beagle. The beagle is a very sturdy dog that can take plenty of roughness and playing, and loves to be active and meet new people. A very excited and curious dog that is great for family life.
Boston Terrier. The terrier is a gentle, well mannered dog and enjoys a challenge. Boston terriers are very easy to train and make for great family dogs and friends.
Irish Setter. A very affectionate dog, the Irish setter is a very good choice for families due to its liking for children and constant happy playful attitude.
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My 4 year old son's behavior is pitiful, no form of discipline I have used has helped to correct it, any help?
He is EXTREMELY defiant, never follows directions, talks back all the time, complains about everything (from what to eat – he’s a VERY picky eater – to his socks hurting him when I ask him to put his shoes & socks on everyday) and the list goes on. He has always had behavior problems but they’ve definitely escalated since my husband left for training in the military 2 months ago. Everyday is a struggle with him from the moment he wakes up until I finally get him to bed. He gets plenty of time to be active & let his energy out everyday because he goes to preschool. I make sure he’s fed breakfast, lunch & dinner but getting him to eat healthy is a struggle because he’s so picky. His idea of breakfast right now is a pop tart and a glass of milk. When he’s home for lunch I’m lucky if I can get him to eat a "meal" and when I can it’s either, grilled cheese, macaroni & cheese, or a cheese quesadilla… he doesn’t like anything else except on the rare occasion. For dinner sometimes he’ll eat a hotdog, or some noodles, but no vegetables and anything really filling. He’s a healthy weight, but otherwise he would just chose to snack all day if I let him. And sometimes being on top of him is difficult because I have a 2 year old who’s autistic and a demanding 6 month old who’s teething. But let’s talk about his behavior, oh my gosh, he’s out of control. He doesn’t listen, if you tell him no, you turn your back and he does it anyway, if I ask him to do something and tend to another child or try to break free to pee you come back 5-10 minutes later it’s still not done, and I’m talking simple stuff, like get dressed, clean up your toys, put your shoes & socks on, etc. And I can remind him over and over and he’ll get the clothes to get dressed, or get his shoes to put them on, but then something distracts him and it’s like he forgot what he was doing. He doesn’t like to share with his younger brother (I know this is probably "normal") and he is always taking things from his younger brother just to upset him or stir things up when things are mellowed down in the house. He adores the baby but sometimes he’s right up in his face laying on him and when I tell him that he could hurt the baby he just defies me and puts more energy into doing just what I asked him not to. I’m taking him to see a psychologist right now because of how extreme his behavior has been and there have been many, many morning when I feel like I’m just going to lose it if I don’t get help because I do this all by myself with no friends or family around to offer me some support when you need that nudge to remind you to "keep on going, this too shall pass, everything’s going to be ok". She just says she could see that he really misses his daddy, and has given me some tips on how to reward his good behavior, etc but there’s been no good behavior to reward. And when he’s bad I have tried everything from spanking him, putting him in timeout, getting nose to nose with him a screaming, taking away his favorite toys, etc and NOTHING seems to be effective, it’s always back to square one the next day. One thing he’s afraid of is when I pretend to call a fictitious "Officer Smith" on the phone to come have a talk with him and then he gets his act together, but only for like 5 minutes. Tonight after talking to his daddy on the phone (which he does every night) he had an episode again so I tried something new and put him to bed early (8:30) and he was complaining of his head hurting probably because he was screaming and running away from me when I told him I was going to put him down. So after putting him to bed it dawned on me that this was EARLY for him, because since his dad left things have gotten a little harder for me to do by myself and by the time I pick them up from school, get them their dinner, feed the baby, change diapers, etc it’s going on 9:00 or even 9:30.. so I thought, that’s it maybe I need to do whatever I can to have him in bed by 7:30… which would be difficult, but I’m sure if I planned things out better or picked them up earlier I could do it. But please offer me some help!! Thanks for reading.
Seems like you’re extremely stressed out. I couldn’t bear to read all of that, but the most common mistake I see in parents is inconsistency. Even if it’s the naughty corner, you need to put him back there. It’s extremely hard, but as soon as he figures out he can’t get away with things, that’s when things will things will began to change.
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From personal experience—I have always said that a misbehaved child is a TIRED child. Kids act like beasts when they do not get enough sleep. Also, try giving him MORE attention, like taking him to the library and allowing him to pick out books for you to read to him. This worked wonders with one of mine when he knew we would go every week on a specific day. They relish the attention, especially when there is a more attention grabbing baby in the house. Good luck !!
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Bless your heart you do have a full plate. so heres a few random suggestions from a Mom
BREATH…Start complementing him…."You are sitting in your carseat so nicely, I am so proud of you"
"Look at you helping your brother just like a big boy" "Thank you for helping him get the toys up that helps me so much" (even if hes not helping right away) Give him little "jobs" to do "help me please, can you hold the baby’s bottle while I grab this" pretend like you need him. "Can you help me and put this in the sink while I ….." (but go with him to the sink and you do something near the sink) If/when you have a minute to sit call him…"Jared come sit beside Mommy I haven’t got to get any of your hugs today and I surely could use some lovins and hugs from my big boy" "I sure do love sitting beside you but I have to get somethings done, it would help me so much if you could play with your brother quietly and nicely while I …."
Rub his head when you’re walking past him, bend over and hug him with out a reason, When hes playing quietly and nice – speak up let him know you noticed. Look for reasons to turn his negative behavior into a positive. When hes taking a toy from the younger one "Jared you have been taking such good care of Josh and I have been soooo proud of you for helping, how about giving him that and maybe you can play with the train. When he puts it down if you want to play with it that would be good" and if he don’t want to do that teach him to compromise…"Jared if you want that get the train and give it to Josh to play with until you’re finished"
I’m sure you have been through a lot already with the husband gone but remember hes a little boy and he can’t sort it out like you can. Seems like he’s just having trouble sorting out his feelings. Teach him to use his words "Jared I know you are sad about Daddy being gone but we get to talk to him tonight" "Jared I know you are mad because Josh took the toy you wanted to play with but you can get it later"
Mom stop screaming…it don’t help and they do learn to tune you out! BREATH….think of ways to say it – stoop down close to him and whisper "Jared I need you to stop running through the house Mommy don’t want you to fall and get hurt"
Now practice some of these random tips and make up a few of your own. You know right now things are not working…so you have nothing but time to lose while you try some of these things. take a deep BREATH and try these things for at least a week. Be positive it might just help! These problems didn’t come up overnight and they will not go away overnight. Good Luck!
PS THank you and your Husband!
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wow….sounds like a full time job…i know tht when i stopped spanking my son he started getting a lil out of control cause he begane to think he could walk all over me now..then i tried love lots of love and talking him into doing the right think.. try that…if not then start time out or taking things from him and remember you are the MOTHER and he is the CHILD… so dont let him rule your home and drive you crazy, and i think that maybe putting him to bed early might help you, you’ll get more time to yourself and be able to give your other children more attention…im sure it all goes to the trouble child..i know mine did..good luck
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It may be over-kill, but I think it’s better to be safe than sorry…. I am taking a class on exceptional children (from learning disabilities, to intellectual disabilities, to behavioral/emotional, up to gifted). He sounds like a milder form of a case-study featured in my text book, and I think he might need to be tested. Having a diagnosis and course of action lead by a professional can make all the difference in the world. Especially with an identified possible cause (your husband being away) he could need some coping strategies from a pro. Worst case, the professional tells you he’s going through a phase and will give you more ideas as to how to help him at home. You can ask his pediatrician for a recommendation to a psychologist. And I would advise this over having the pediatrician try to diagnose.
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Education of the Exceptional Child class / text book.